Paganocity

Sex is a lovely thing to share with someone you care about.  What happens when you can't?

How does one beat out self-doubt?  My boyfriend and I have been together for a little while now, a couple of months, and we are in love.  It was one of those overwhelming emotions that popped out without anyone's permission, and it did happen fast.  We have an interesting situation, because we are neighbors.  He lives in the apartment above me.  We became so fond of each other that really we basically started living together the day we started dating, and it has been working splendidly (and if we need space, one of us just needs to climb a flight of stairs!).  We're really hitting it off.

 The only problem that we've been having (other than my terrible ability to turn off alarm clocks in my sleep and make us both late for class) has to do with sex, and why we haven't had it yet.  Now I'm a big proponent of waiting for a while before you start sleeping with someone, but we're ready... I think.  We both say we are.  We both definitely want to, and we try.  Only he has not had a girl friend/been sexually active since his junior year of high school... Six years ago.  He is completely ready to go until he hears the condom wrapper rip-  Then suddenly, flaccid.  We've talked, and apparently it's all in his head (fears of inadequacy, etc).  But I can't get it out of his head.  And since the solstice, I have been MORE than eager to help get him over this.  

Does anyone know any good herbs, crystals, flowers, etc that may help?  Chants to encourage male ego?  Fragrances in candles?  Places I can buy female condoms?---Because as I told him, some day I may just find a way to surprise him while we're doing our normal fooling around (and he says that's OK).

Suggestions?